First Love

I know that you are thinking, yet another blog post with someone swooning over a past boyfriend and well, while the title may lead you to that thought, this is not that. This post is about the love you have or should have for yourself. In my opinion it is one of the most important forms of love.

As with many things these days the topic of self love is trendy and like many trends it is fleeting. However, I say lets stop for a minute and really hold on to this. You may be one of the lucky ones who has already discovered the importance of loving yourself but to the others out there that, maybe your relationship with yourself is a little shaky, well, I’m here to lend a little push in the right direction.

***Disclaimer: I am by no means an expert but it has become increasingly clear through my own personal experiences that nothing else truly matters if you do not love yourself first.

So here is what you should know:

  • Be Selfish. It is perfectly OK to be selfish. It can become so easy to get wrapped up in other people’s problems to the point where it begins to shadow your own needs. Take a mental day from other people by silencing your phone. Mediate or exercise. Reclaim your time and energy. This is not to say that you should abandon your loved ones or your friends but being a little selfish with your time is a good step to putting yourself first.
  • Confidence. The relationship that you have with yourself should be one that you are proud of and would want to flaunt. Having confidence in yourself is often a sign of your inner strength and courage. You can gain confidence by focusing on your positive attributes. It’s too common for people to look to the things they may not like about themselves without thinking twice about it. It’s things such as this that causes people to doubt themselves and not feel their best and if you don’t feel your best it will definitely reflect in your day to day life. So! Hold your head high and acknowledge all of your lovable qualities.
  • Take control. Watching your life go by can happen if you don’t charge. Not allowing yourself to be idle is essential to self love. You should set goals for each day, no matter how small. Make life awesome with the things that you enjoy and don’t let past failures stop you. It is OK to make mistakes because it’s not the mistake that defines you it is how you handle yourself after the mistake is made.
  • Set boundaries. This is point ties together the rest. You could be on track with being selfish with your time, having confidence and taking control but there’s someone or something in your life that is toxic. Toxic situations or people can bring you down. If there is a relationship, whether it be with a family member, friend or lover that seemingly causes you nothing but stress you should definitely evaluate what’s more important, you or that relationship. Sometimes you don’t notice when someone who is supposed to be in your corner is constantly telling you not to do something that may benefit you or always questioning the moves you’ve already made but what’s holding you back may be right in your face. Or maybe it’s not a person but a job that takes a physical or mental toll. Yes, it’s easier said than done but when your health is at risk you should definitely try to remove / distance yourself. Know your worth.

Ultimately, the way that you treat yourself is the way that you present yourself to the world. Set the tone. Be the type of person that makes you proud. Love yourself first and all else will follow.